The good thing to be a listener is that you learn new things. Those are things that you are inexperienced. You'll imagine and take a whole story as yours. As you listen, you try to enter the scene and choose to be an actor. The story is not yours but you'll try to answer all the questions which are given to you. Even, you are not giving a clear answer or your answer is complicated. It's interesting and that is what relationship really is, to share, to give, to care, to help, to be there with someone who trusts you and accepts who you are.